Quotes

Ideal

[Kant] notes that a good theory of parenting is a wonderful ideal, and that it is not at all bad when we are not immediately able to realize that ideal. One should not immediately regard the idea behind it as a chimera, or as a beautiful but unrealizable dream, precisely when all sorts of obstacles (within oneself or from without) arise in its implementation. And then he says: ‘An idea is an understanding of a perfection not yet found in reality, for example a republic ruled perfectly according to rules of justice! But is it therefore impossible?’ In any case, the point is to get your idea clear, and then, if possible, remove the obstacles.” Visser (2017)

Taking one’s own (limited) framework as leading.

The danger of having too personal a framework is that you quickly disapprove of others who have a different framework than you. This is evident in the following quote:
Turiel, on the other hand, defined morality as “justice, rights and welfare.” But any attempt to define morality by identifying a few things as the truly moral things and dismissing the rest as “social convention” is doomed to be parochial. It is a moral community saying, “These are our central values, and we define morality as something about our central values; to hell with the rest of you.
When you have one clear principle, you can begin to judge different cultures. Some cultures get a higher score than others, meaning they are morally superior.
That binding is usually accompanied by some blindness – once a person, book or principle is canonized, its adherents cannot question it or think clearly about it.” (Haidt (2012)